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Live with PASSION!

It is time to live with PASSION and PERSONALITY!!! To do anything less is to live life less fully!

Family, friends and society all demand things from us, behaviors, procedures, manners, interactions, tact, etc etc etc. But in trying to answer everyone else’s requirements/demands, we never really discover who we are.

And so, starting today, starting the moment I began to realize this: I will live with all the passion, personality and love that I am.

We are each unique, and were never meant to be replicas of a divine being, but rather us living as a divine being. Me, and all that I am, my sense of humor, my personality, my passions, all living as a divine being. It is all about how we live.

I have met many people who…to be honest…they live such a pale life, when there is such magnificent, colorful passion and joy just waiting to burst through. They are living in pastel, when the full pallet of color is available to them.

Look back at your life, and see (particularly for women) how you changed your behavior because you wanted to fit in, to be accepted, to be liked, to be respected, to be envied, to make people proud, to impress, to fit in with a partner’s friends and associates. You will see, time and time again, how you ‘played a role’. This is why so many of us don’t really know who we are.

The funny thing for me is…when I am writing I know exactly who my characters are, and when I am writing I know that that is who and what I am: a writer.

I have had a tendency to behave conservatively with other people, and that stops now. I went to dinner a few weeks ago, dressed up in my jeans, high heeled red boots, and black leather jacket, and I was just me in all my glory for the night. And you know what? It felt great. I talked to the people sitting around me and we all had a great time. I think it was a better night because I was being my passionate self and not the conservative ‘Mr X’s wife’.

So, here’s my suggestion. Let’s all start living with a whole lot more passion and personality. Stop hiding, stop being conservative.

My Dad and I often have the discussion of ‘characters’ and he (being born in 1929) worked with men who had survived WWII. Some of these men were real characters! They had been through something so brutal, but they knew what was important. Today’s corporate world and bosses are all about money and profit, and making themselves feel important. It’s power games, and they have never ever had to truly test themselves in battle. And don’t you dare talk to me of board room battles, because they are not battles. Compared to a war, to life and death struggles, they are petty arguments amongst power hungry people. That’s all.

People who have faced their mortality return home changed by that experience. Whilst we who have not faced our mortality are still buying into this plastic false, surface living life.

No more!!!

I’m tired of talking to people who are afraid to fully live. Let’s live, with passion and personality!! Don’t be afraid to be you.

Forget the pastel colors, forget the beige life. Let us live the full pallet of colors!!!

Why email lists have created a ‘delete’ culture

I have my own work to do, a family to raise, chores to attend to, martial arts to learn and practice, books to read. I just do not have the time to read all these emails, nor the money to buy what they want to sell me.

And so I delete delete delete.

I am actually quite tired of people trying to sell me things.

Perhaps one day, they might offer me something irresistible, and I might have the time and money, and so I do not quit their lists. But, nonetheless, when I am busy (90% of the time) I delete delete delete.

People tell me ‘you’ve got to grow your email list’…and, you know what, I just can’t make myself do it. I can’t put people’s names on a list. I have a small group of friends with whom I share a piece of my writing, maybe once a month, as I feel once a month is enough. But I don’t add every person who ever emails me to that list. If they want me to email them once a month, then they are welcome to ask.

I have a website, facebook, and this blog, and I figure, all I can do is connect with you in my own way. I am here. I will read as much of your work as I can in the time that I have available, and leave a comment, and maybe you will do the same. I believe it’s all about building relationships with people.

It’s not about email lists. It’s about people, it’s about relationships.