I have my own work to do, a family to raise, chores to attend to, martial arts to learn and practice, books to read. I just do not have the time to read all these emails, nor the money to buy what they want to sell me.
And so I delete delete delete.
I am actually quite tired of people trying to sell me things.
Perhaps one day, they might offer me something irresistible, and I might have the time and money, and so I do not quit their lists. But, nonetheless, when I am busy (90% of the time) I delete delete delete.
People tell me ‘you’ve got to grow your email list’…and, you know what, I just can’t make myself do it. I can’t put people’s names on a list. I have a small group of friends with whom I share a piece of my writing, maybe once a month, as I feel once a month is enough. But I don’t add every person who ever emails me to that list. If they want me to email them once a month, then they are welcome to ask.
I have a website, facebook, and this blog, and I figure, all I can do is connect with you in my own way. I am here. I will read as much of your work as I can in the time that I have available, and leave a comment, and maybe you will do the same. I believe it’s all about building relationships with people.
It’s not about email lists. It’s about people, it’s about relationships.
We’re all facing that same uphill battle, Robyn. Wondering if we’re inundating the people in our life with too much of our own baggage and stuff … while nonetheless trying to be productive as writers. Rather be seen than unseen, I suppose.
We live in this age of constant communication, so the incessant clatter will be there whether we contribute to it or not. It’s hard not to bury our heads and burrow into our own little writing hole, just coming up for air once in a while… but if to be heard is the point, then we better keep spinning our squeaky wheels and see who shows up with the oil.
You are so right! It’s about finding the balance.
I was told by a person that “it’s all about building your email list” … but in his efforts he has all but spammed people and damaged what could have been a good relationship. I like to form relationships with people, I don’t want them to just be number 23 on the list.